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Welcome
to the website of
E~merging
Beyond
Mediation Services
Untangling
the knots of conflict
and re-weaving them into knots of understanding
and/or trust
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E~merging
Beyond
is a mediation/conflict-resolution
service offered by Pashta MaryMoon in Victoria,
B.C. Canada. She
was trained in Mediation/Third-party Intervention through
both the Institute
for Conflict Analysis and Management and
the Justice
Institute of B.C., and is a general member
of the South
Island Dispute Resolution Centre Society.
Pashta
primarily uses a Transformative
and/or Interest-based Mediation
style 
developing innovative ways to resolve conflicts between
individuals that honour their personal values, beliefs,
feelings and needs.Resolutions,
woven from these qualities, are more likely to both
be genuinely workable (re the specific
problem) and provide a foundation for resolving
any further conflicts in the future.They
are based
not on compromise or coercion
but the best possible 'win-win' result for all those
involved.
E~merging
Beyond's
particular focus is on interpersonal conflict resolution
within small social-concerns non-profit organizations,
and families dealing with difficult 'end of life' issues
(see article
or 'about Pashta'
for more infomration on how this effects family members)
but
is open to mediation in other situations as well.However,
please note that Pashta is not certified to deal with
legal/litigation cases referred to mediation by the
law courts.Please
contact the services listed on the top part of the right-hand
menu for court-mandated cases.
The Metaphor/Symbology
of Knots
Interpersonal
conflict generally arises from multiple threads
of misunderstandings, assumptions and expectations,
judgments, personality-type differences, and cultural
or personal values
which are tangled into knots of frustration,
anger, and/or hurt; and can eventually lead to deep-rooted
mistrust.Some
of the threads may be based on knots of
past experience (either unacknowledged,
or unrecognized as effecting the situation) that
trigger positional and counter-productive responses
to the specific conflict.
These
are the kind of knots that bind us into negative
or unproductive relationships.Sometimes,
the threads become so knotted into a tangled
web
as with a ball of wool that several kittens have played
with
that it seems like it would be impossible to disentangle
them!We
are, then, tempted to assume that it would just be easier
to just throw the 'ball of wool' (i.e.
the relationship) away.
On the
other hand, knots are also a metaphor for the
inter-woven threads of family and community that
weave a healthy, dynamic, and yet secure tapestry for
our lives: marriage, for example, is often referred
to as "tying the knot".These
are the life-knots of understanding, compassion
and empathy, trust, and honour.They
represent a solid sense of belonging, and/or provide
a firm loom upon which to weave a tapestry
of creative and productive relationships.
Transformative
and/or Interest-based Mediation
is the process by which conflict-knots are untangled
in
which the threads are separated, assessed for
their influence on the conflict situation, and clarified
as to their source (misunderstandings/etc.).In
the process, further threads may be revealed
that neither party may have recognized as being tangled
into the conflict-web.Once
untangled, the threads can then be re-woven into
a solution
which is both secured into the trust-knots of
new understanding/etc., and honours the needs and wishes
of both people (or groups).
The decorative
corner-knot used in the design of this website has a
Celtic background.Most
cultures, however, use knots as symbols of both the
negative and positive kinds of inter-woven connectedness.
The
Name E~merging Beyond
"E~merging Beyond"
is a play on words.Etymologically,
the word emerge comes from emergere
"rise out or up," from ex "out"
+ mergere "to dip, sink"
and unresolved conflict situations often do feel like
emotional and/or logistical sinkholes.The
practical purpose of mediation is to emerge from the
typical tangled web of confusions/mis~understandings/etc.
that have lead to the conflict, with a workable solution.In
Transformative or Interested-based
Mediation, however, the longer-term goal is to
find common values, and develop understanding and empathy
between the two people/groups
and therefore, (re) merge (positive
synonyms
combine, connect, meld, join, tie in, unite)
the relationship into a more creative and productive
tapestry.
Our thanks to
Skeena hosting services
as well as
GRsites
for on-line graphics services and backgrounds
"Eos"
for text background
E-merging
Beyond ,
and its sister-site En~chanting
Beyond, are sponsored by
VIBES
(Vancouver Island Beyond-the-Everday Services)
Mediation
The journey from
knots of conflict
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to
knots of understanding,
respect and/or trust
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